Friend Networking, the Crossing Point Between Inner and Outer World

The stage of giving and receiving is formed by friend networking. To choose for yourself doesn't mean automatically choosing to be alone. By the choice to share your life with others, you learn to know yourself better and learn others to know themselves better. 

This is also a plea to build up your life with others and not become an independent individual, oriented to yourself and living on your own.

This individualism has as possible disadvantages: a too strong orientation upon yourself and no connection with others. Beside this: selfishness, loneliness and no possibility to speak about your problems with others, by which those problems can be placed in perspective.

The Dalai Lama once said:"Humans have in their life the choice, while being in the middle of an imaginary line, on the one side to look at oneself and to choose to engage oneself with his own business for the rest of his life. Or to look to the other side and to choose to help his fellow men".

First step outside

Your fist step in the outer world: making your desires clear to other people. Up until now you were reviewing and working your inner world. This is the crossing point between your inner world and the outer world. The stage of giving and receiving. 

Now you believe with confidence that you are able to achieve what you desire, it is time to come out. You do that by sharing your thoughts about your desires with other people. This is called friend networking or social networking.

In the beginning, when you utter your desire the first times you will be vulnerable for criticism. Be careful where and when you do this. Choose a save environment where people will react in a positive way.

Pay attention on the way people react. If they are negative to your plans, don't let you in with them.

Some people will direct you in the wrong way. Not on purpose but because they only know their own way and they cannot imagine that an other way would fit you more. This people cannot help you, be aware of them. 

If you don't, it could happen that you loose the connection with your own desires. It will happen if you show yourself unsure or not clear. But YOU are and remain the one, who can determine what fits you and what not. So speak for yourself.

Questions

You will get critical questions, such as: "And how do you think to realize this?". You don't know that yet, and that 's just the reason why you are speaking and asking to others. To get ideas about the way you can receive and accomplish what you want. 

So answer the question above like this: "That's a very interesting question, do you have an idea?" And if the other person than says "No, I do not know how you could do that", think "Why do I talk to you?" and turn to the next person.

But most of the people will help you with pleasure to make a step forward and provide you with tips, experiences and referrals. By friend networking you will broaden your view on how to get the right information acquired for your goals. This will happen especially if you carry the imagination of your desires with you, that provides you a good feeling.

Perhaps you have a desire that is unusual or unknown to many people. In that case you should have to explain many things. If you are able to speak freely and with conviction about you and your desires, people will take you serious and will become interested.

The bottom line here is to give and receive. You want interest and information. You will get more if you are able to give, using friend networking.