The Components of High Self Esteem

High self esteem: a subtle balance between different elements. These three elements of self esteem are very closely knit. A positive look at oneself increases the self confidence, and the greater the self confidence, and the more self confidence, the more self-love, and so on. 

We all have, in vary extend and dependent of our age, our upbringing or the problems we met, enough or an insufficient amount of self esteem. Go to this site to zap your life through rapid self growth.

A shortage can be completed. As you will see has "self esteem" nothing to do with what someone has, but everything with who you are, your being.

In the spoken language we have many terms for "self esteem". All these terms indicate different aspects who help to define this concept as "have self confidence", "being satisfied with oneself", "being self secure", "seeing oneself with pleasure", "self-love", "believing in oneself", and so on.

All these terms prove that "self esteem" is not based on one single property. It is the result of a subtle psychological balance of many factors. The three most important factors are self-love, self confidence and self-knowledge.

Self love

Self-love is the most important pillar of high self esteem and this love is by definition unconditional. It is not always easy to imagine something as unconditional without self-restraint. For who has children, this is the great love you feel for your child, in spite of all the difficulties you have to overcome. 

With other words, high self esteem is to see oneself with pleasure in spite of his or her mistakes and limits, in spite of his or her failures and minus points. This self-love doesn't protects us for adversity, doesn't keep us from failures, but helps us with finding a new way and not becoming desperate.

Self confidence

We say often of someone that he or she doesn't have self confidence or we experience this with ourself. This psychological understanding reveals in our daily actions, even the most simple ones. If you need compliments or approval or agreement, it is likely that you don't have self confidence. 

I emphasize that this is only true if you need it; when you become unsure if you don't get one of these agreements, you have lack of self confidence. In the same way that self confidence expresses itself in our daily actions, contribute our daily actions to our feeling of self confidence.

If we do something well, our self confidence has been improved. And that is true too if you tried something, did the best you could, but it did not workout the way you wanted it: your intentions were good! Most parents feel very well that they should praise their children for their performances, even if the results are not perfect. Treat yourself this way too.

Self knowledge

The third pillar of self esteem is the image that you have of yourself. How do I see myself? Do I see myself like my best friend or like my worst enemy? The answer upon these very simple questions says much about our self esteem. 

The image that you have of yourself is not based upon objective self knowledge. On the contrary, its origin lays in a subjective look at oneself. There are many adolescents who are very beautiful in the opinion of their parents, but complaint that they "are ugly". 

This strict look at themselves indicates their negative look at themselves (at this age most of the time of short time). Otherwise is a positive look at oneself a basic for a strong inner power who helps to overcome the difficulties of life. You can even build self esteem to overcome a crisis.

High Self Esteem!

To increase your self esteem you may need some help. But now you can already start to be your own best friend. Develop a symbolic or real stock of positive thoughts about yourself. There are on this site several self esteem exercises.

You will be surprised because you will find yourself soon more beautiful, more self secure and more intelligent then you ever have thought could be possible. This way you develop high self esteem.