What
change do you want to make? Build new habits to make yourself more
successful in one or another area of life?
There
are four stages you are going through when you build habits. If you
know
this you will have more success in forming a habit.
Look
here:
The
first stage, dark green on the graphic, is the time that you are
unconscious incapable. In this stage, to build habits is not of your interest. You
don't know you are doing something wrong or you don't see the need of
learning something new.
Make a Habit
The
good news is that you are already in the second stage, otherwise you
wouldn't read this. In this second stage you are conscious incapable,
you know that you want to build new habits. It is the most tricky
stage. Why? You will be aware that you do not or can not yet
what
you want to do.
"Oh, I forgot it again", "Oh, I
did it wrong",
"Why is this so difficult?" You beat yourself again and again. There is
a risk that you get stuck and gave up during this stage. Don't do that,
persist, otherwise you will never be able to build new habits or learn
habits. Peristence pays.
And do not beat yourself, make it fun.
Laugh when
the going isn't easy, self-mockery is the best way to make things
relative and it will be more easy to persist by that.
Learn Habits
During
the third stage, called conscious capable, you will see that
you
really learn your habits. The going will become easier and easier. You
now discover all times that you do it right, you build a habit and
the times you fall back will become always fewer. You will be happy
because you are aware that you succeed.
Form a Habit
The
last stage, unconscious capable. You don't know that you are doing
right now, what you have learned with so much effort. It is obvious and
natural. Your habit is formed.
How many time
does it cost to
form a habit? That depends upon the size of your goal and the
degree that you are set in your ways. Small goals like forming a habit
of daily practice, will take three to six weeks, bigger goals will
consume much more time and are served by several
smaller habits to
achieve it.
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